As you go through your journey of attracting a good man you may meet a man who doesn’t live in your city. Because of online dating, this seems to be the new norm. Depending on how you and your new date hit it off, it may eventually turn into a long distance relationship.
I’ve been in a long distance relationship before and it can be very stressful. It also will ONLY work if both persons involved are willing to do what it takes to make it work.
Based on my experience of being in a long term relationship that eventually led to being engaged, here are the steps that I recommend. These steps can be applied if you’re currently in a long term relationship or are thinking about pursuing one.
The key to having a successful long distance relationship is that both of you must have made the decision that you’re going to be committed to one another and are working towards eventually living together or moving closer to one another. This is a serious conversation that you need to have with your man and it shouldn’t be pushed off.
You both also need to be on the same page when it comes to your vision for your love life. If you have a desire to be married then you need to let him know exactly where you want this relationship to go. If he is not dating you to eventually get married then you may find yourself being strung along by a man who is getting a kick out of having a woman in another city.
Another key in having a successful long distance relationship is communication. Because you’re not going to see each other every day, you need to keep the lines of communication open and talk often. With the limitless use of technology there is no excuse why you haven’t seen him virtually or spoken to him in days.
Because we need human interaction, you both need to come to an agreement on how often you are going to see each other. Depending on your work schedule and how far you live from one another, you need to make time to see each other. When my fiancé and I were in a long distance relationship we saw each other twice a month. Because we both had weekends off and due to our finances, we came to the agreement that we would spend two weekends out of the month together. One weekend I would travel to see him and the other weekend he would come and see me. This seemed to work out great for us until we eventually were able to live in the same city.
It is possible to have a successful long distance relationship. It just takes a strong commitment, open lines of communication, and team work.